In the world we are living now, the “boys don’t cry” stereotype still lingers. It is a common societal belief that males, particularly boys and men, should not show or express emotions, particularly sadness or vulnerability, through tears. It is deeply rooted in many cultures and has endured for generations. It stems from various factors, such as societal norms, expectations of masculinity, and the belief that emotional displays are a sign of weakness.

The societal expectation that boys should not cry can contribute to the development of mental health problems. Boys who adopt the “boys don’t cry” stereotype may feel pressured or suppress their emotions. They will struggle to articulate their feelings and needs effectively. Ultimately, they will not be able to connect with others and maintain healthy relationships.

As a caring parent and guardian, you have the power to break free from these harmful stereotypes by doing the things below.

Empower them beyond gender stereotypes

Choose to empower, not limit. It is important to support your child in trying out different hobbies and interests, regardless of gender. For instance, it’s okay for boys to participate in activities like cooking, art, or dance, which are sometimes considered “feminine” but can help them express themselves.

Foster open communication

Create an environment where open and honest communication is nurtured. Let your child know they can talk to you about anything, including their emotions. Be approachable and non-judgmental when they come to you with their concerns or feelings. An instance of this is when your little boy is upset or injured, instead of saying “you’re fine” impulsively, take a moment to pause and acknowledge their emotions.

Encourage emotional literacy

According to Marilyn Chapman from the University of British Columbia, it is very important for parents to educate their children on how to properly manage and communicate their feelings. One way to do this is by teaching them about different emotions and giving them the words to express their feelings. Talk about various emotions and their importance. Also, emphasize that it’s normal and healthy for everyone to experience and express emotions, regardless of gender. Share your feelings with your child and demonstrate that crying is a natural response to certain situations and not a sign of weakness.